One of the activities I love the most is to be a mentor for young women. I believe this goes back to being the only female in many industries and having no female role model to follow. I knew I was missing something. Over the past few years I have had the pleasure and honor of mentoring some amazing young women. Of course my first and most special is my daughter, and I hope I have lived up to her expectations.
The other afternoon I met with my mentee Shirley, and as we were going through her choices going forward I was thrust into the old cliche-”Do what I say, not as I do” because I found myself giving her some solid advice….that I should be following myself. She is going to graduate and the world is right in front of her. She is an intelligent young woman with the most amazing work ethics and integrity and is proud of who she is. She is passionate about some things and tolerant of others but how do you make one decision when there are so many options in front of you.
The first question I asked her, that my business coach asked me some years ago, “If you could do anything you wanted and money, time and age would not be a factor and you could NOT fail, what would it be? Most people have trouble with this but she had some definite answers. As she was speaking I knew a phone call I needed to make to someone that she should be connected to…and we did that at that moment. She was now starting her road map to get to her goals. We continued peeling back the onion and with each piece we came up some ideas and strategies with agreed upon completion dates. We then wrote the items down on her calendar and the goal setting began.
Now, how does this relate to me. Aren’t I the one who is supposed to be the savvy entrepreneur who has her act together….well I thought I did to some extent before our meeting. So here is what I learned and I thank my beautiful mentee for pinning me down to my own devices:
- Write down your goals- Understand that they might need some adjusting and rearranging.
- Have someone to bounce things off of. Your ideas might sound reasonable until you say them out loud. An objective person can add valuable insight.
- Never give up on your dreams. Sometimes they may seem out of reach but with some discussion and other resources they become crystal clear.
Remember- Every day is the beginning of a new dream. Focus on what is important to you and make your dreams come true.