By Judy Mackenzie
Are you projecting the attitude you think you are?
If life has a tendency to overwhelm and fill you with negative feelings, practice projecting a positive attitude. A change in attitude can lead to many positive changes in your life. Practicing a positive attitude can have a quick and important impact on self-esteem, self-confidence and general well being. People will mirror the presence you project. It is not a coincidence that when you are having a good day, everyone else seems to also be having a good day.
I could say just smile but it is more than that. Our body language tells the whole story of how we are feeling. Did you know that we convey 75% of any message we want to send by body language alone. If you find yourself caught up in some negative self-talk, think about the message you are inadvertently projecting.
2. Laugh at yourself. Look for the humour in situations.
Laugh often. Laughter has a positive effect on you and those around you, while relieving your body of stress. We program ourselves to find events frustrating, anger producing or just plain irritating. It will take some practice but if you can “re-program” yourself to look at these offensive times through a different lens, you will be amazed how much simpler life becomes.
Anytime you think something negative, write down the thought and turn it into a positive statement. Retrain your brain to think positively. When you realize you have just beaten yourself up, it is important to understand the root of the
issue. Writing down your abusive thoughts will show patterns and clues as to how to proceed. Remember that thoughts become beliefs and then actions, so manage your thought process with your happiness in mind.
4. Spend time with positive people
Negative people are always recruiting for other negative people. This might mean you have to cut people out of your life, or minimize the amount of time you spend with them. Negativity is as contagious as being positive. Be aware of those around you who try to sell their negative attitude as “being realistic.” That is their story not yours.
Be gentle with people. You can be hard on issues but gentle on people and make a huge difference to you and those around you. Be curious about people, rather than judgmental. We all have a story to tell. You will find that once you slow down (just
for that brief moment) and discover something to enjoy, your body will relax and clarity will follow. It is hard to be tense when you think about the little girl you saw going to daycare with her squirrel rubber boots on.
The work starts with you, and as you work on developing your positive attitude, you can help others see their strengths. Help others attain a healthier, positive outlook. Be a role model for change and enjoy how people respond.
Judy Mackenzie is a member of eWomenNetwork and the eWomenNetwork Speakers Network. She holds an MBA, PCC, CEC CHRP, is a business consultant who works with entrepreneurs and small business owners in the planning, writing and execution of a business plan in order to ease overwhelm, time management and financial issues. Judy is a writer, speaker, facilitator and executive coach. She is a respected business coach who uses a goal-focused approach to help her clients reach for their dreams.