By Teresa Bruni
Past events, whether viewed as good or bad, a triumph or a tragedy make up who we are and how we respond to life. Yet some choose to continually suffer from their past feeling betrayed, bitter, angry and even guilty. These people feel a total loss of control over their lives and will tell anyone who’s listening, “I can’t change the past.” While it is true that past events can’t be changed, there is something you can change. You can change the way you think about the past.
By the time I reached my mid-twenties I realized that the dysfunctional household I grew up in was more the norm than the exception. Angry, fighting parents who were incapable of uttering the word “love” was the standard in our household. It was in my thirties that I began to recognize my parents as people. People who were simply doing the best they could during difficult times, people who couldn’t say “I love you” because it had never been said to them.
Once this shift in my “view of the past” occurred, I was able to put it to rest and move on with my life in a positive direction. Everyone has the power to do this.
While there are many, many horrible things that happen to people, there is nothing that can’t be cured with love, understanding and forgiveness. It’s not always easy but it always works!
The unhappiness that you may feel over past events is entirely a creation of your mind and the way you choose to think about your past. We may not have control over many things in this world but the one thing you will always have control over are your thoughts.
Change your thoughts and you change your world. —Norman Vincent Peale